A few times I was told defensively (by my ex) "It's not my fault for saying things that I knew would be-- & had designed to be-- emotionally abusive. It's your fault for getting upset over it."
People like that are weaklings. I have nothing but disgust for that trait.
Telling obvious lies on any social media platforms.
That reminds me of the time that my friend and I were playing music in his garage, and Paul McCartney was walking by, and told us he thought we were better than the Beatles, but chastised us for not being more creative with making up fake stories.
My insecure sister enjoys talking about overcoming insecurity on Facebook.
"I was always too insecure to wear a bikini but I think it's important to show how far I've come" or "I realized I need to allow myself to be vulnerable and show how far I've come with my singing."
She is trying to show she has overcome certain insecurities but her need to post that sh*t constantly shows she still relies on compliments for her self esteem.
When people say "I have a very strong personality".
I automatically cringe but don't say anything cause I don't want to hurt their feelings but really a person that has a strong personality doesn't have to mention it. We can all sense it, you know what I mean ?
I'm a pilot. Around the lounge, there's this other pilot who very often will announce how his landings are so great that different Towers around the US will consistently tell him how great his landings are and how they've never in their careers seen such great landings. Everyone just rolls their eyes and groans. Is this guy so dense, that he doesn't see how everyone thinks he's full of sht? Doesn't he see how much of an a*, and insecure he's coming off as? Tower is too busy or doesn't even care to compliment anyone's landings.
Posting Facebook quiz results that say how smart, mature, beautiful, or amazing you are in whatever way.
It's especially telling if someone has a bad habit (like being terrible at housekeeping/messy) and posts a quiz result saying how this trait makes them better than other people (usually, "more creative").
Before Facebook I had no idea how many friends I have that are rocking 150+ IQ's. Like damn girl you failed Advanced Algebra twice in high school but here you are making Einstein look pants-on-head stupid. Go you.
People who feel the need to decide whether others are "true" members of their group/fandom/whatever based on their standards alone.
"If you haven't read the manga, you're not a true [insert anime here] fan!"
"If you can't name more than 5 albums of [insert band here] or recite all the members' blood types, you're not a real fan."
"If you don't speak perfect Tagalog, know how to cook adobo blindfolded, or memorize the length of Manny Pacquiao's penis down to the millimeter, you're not a true Filipino."
They act like that group/fandom is all they have going for them, so they'll fight tooth and nail to avoid getting knocked down a peg.